Curly Hair Q&A

This Q&A is a basic guide to help you get you life together! Just kidding! This guide is not a step by step of what I do on the daily with my hair. This is simply to get you in the know about with all the techniques, tools, and products that I use.

My hope is that this will help you in your curly hair journey or maybe you’re not on a journey and you’re just looking for tips and tricks on taming the beast. Personally I’m not going the “Curly Girl Method” which is an actual thing, I’m just looking to better take care of my hair and help others along the way. I will be covering products that I have used in the past and loved as well as new ones that I’m trying.

Remember, I said it before, but I’ll say it again, this is a process. Your hair might not look like your moms, or your friends, or that random girl on Instagram that you follow. Whatever you call it, your curls, waves, or frizzy mess, it’s unique to you. With that being said, let’s get started!

Q. What shampoo and conditioner do you use?

I used to use Redken, which is sulfur free. I love redken! I used a variety of their lines, extreme, all soft, frizz dismiss, and curvaceous. I just recently switched to Deva Curls Original No-poo and Conditioner and so far I’m loving it. I will keep you guys updated on that. I’m working on journaling and taking pictures of the process.

A few tips when looking for a shampoo and conditioner, be sure to get a salon professional product that is sulfur free. Walmart products are not going to cut it. Think about makeup or building a house. If you don’t have a solid foundation then the rest of it isn’t going to be great. Same goes for your hair! You can’t expect your products to work like they should if you aren’t starting at the root issue, the shampoo and conditioner.

Q. What styling product(s) do you use?

My favorite drug store product is Suave Professional Whipped Cream Mousse. Yes, this is from walmart, but I know that not everyone can afford fancy, expensive products. I used this mousse for YEARS! It is the only drug store mousse that I found actually worked without making my hair feel crunchy or dried out. I don’t know what is so special about the Whipper Creme Mousse, but that stuff works like magic.

Recently I switched to Deva Curl Styling Creme, which smells like fruity pebbles. This product is really great and a little goes a long way. If you apply to much, it can make your curls feel a little crunchy, which is okay. The crunch has created what is called a curl cast. When your hair is about 80% dry you can start to pinch and rub the “crunchy” curls between your fingers to soften the curl. The Curl cast really help to hold the curl form until it is completely dry and once the crunchy is rubbed out it leave your hair soft and beautiful.

I also use a product by Redken, One United. It is another favorite. It has 25 different uses some of which being, a leave in conditioner, a detangler, frizz dismiss, heat protectant, and so on. I love to use this on my damp hair. I have recommended this product to so many clients (I’m a hairstylist) and they have all absolutely loved it, every last one of them.

Q. How often did you wash your hair?

So this differs from person to person. Personally I wash my hair about once a week, every 5-7 days. My hair had always been on the dry side, so definitely no earlier than 3 days. I start using dry shampoo on day 3 or 4, but for the most part my hair is okay and will make it without it until day 5-7.

A few things to keep in mind when deciding how much to wash your hair. The more you wash the more you are removing the natural oils that your scalp is producing. When you wash your hair everyday or every other day you aren’t allowing the natural oil to stay around long enough, your scalp then begins to think that it’s really dry and it will start producing more oils to try and keep up.

I’m sure some of you wash your hair very often and it’s a hard transition to make because no one can stand the grease, but it’s worth it. Buy yourself some dry shampoo and try to go as long as you can. My favorite dry shampoo is by Amika, Your hair will adjust to what you do to it so start training it.

Q. How do you combat frizziness?

Four words for you, conditioner, wet brush, product, and towel. I can not stress enough how important it is that you are using product. I have so many clients tell me how frizzy and out of control their hair is, but when asked if they use products, the answer is no.

I’ve already listed the products that I use above as well as the conditioner. Now the wet brush comes in handy in the shower. Once I put in my conditioner I part my hair and brush through it, then I rinse. You want to be sure and rinse out the conditioner gently so your hair can remain in it parted position tangle free.

I learned that brushing my hair with the conditioner in helps to get all the tangles out without separating my curls and making them stringy (because I rinse after I brush) which is what will happen if you brush your hair after the shower. I never brush my hair after the shower.

Towel, use a microfiber towel. This is the best to scrunch and wrap your hair with because it helps to combat frizz. After I apply products I scrunch with this towel and then wrap my hair up. My hair is the first thing that I take care of in the morning so that I can keep it wrapped as long as possible while I finish getting ready. Sometimes I even drive to work or church with the towel on my head and remove it when I arrive to my destination. The longer I leave this towel on the better. It helps to dry my hair without frizz.

Q. What do you do on day two and three of curly hair? How do you go about styling it?

This is something that I will get more in dept with in a later post but here are the basics. If my hair is still okay from the day before, although the curls may have loosened some, I leave it. If it’s a hot mess and I don’t have time to deal with it, I put it up.

If I want to redo the curls I wet my head completely over the tub. I scrunch and add product. Personally, I don’t think using a spray bottle or spritzing product on my hair works. I think it makes the curls more frizzy.

Q. What brushes and combs do you use? When do you use them?

My favorite brush is my wet brush. I brush my hair before I get in the shower on wash day to remove tangles and in the shower while the conditioner is on my hair. I do not brush my hair after the shower or at any other time. If I brush my hair after I get out of the shower is breaks my curls up and makes them stringy.

Q. Do you shower before bed and sleep on your hair wet?

Plain and simple, no. Your hair will feel awful in the morning, really frizzy, and probably still wet. You can not expect your curls to look good doing this.

Of course if you need to shower before bed and happen to go to sleep with wet hair, that’s fine. Just know that you will have to wet it again in the morning and start fresh.


I hope that these questions help you get on the right track. My next post will be more of a set by step of what I do on the daily and what I do on refresh days. If you have any additional questions, feel free to comment below. I would love to help you guys in any way that I can. Know that I am still learning and the more I learn the more I will share with you guys.

- Samantha Richard